As Christ, the new Adam, perfectly models masculinity, Mary, the new Eve, perfectly models femininity. In his first letter, St. John warns of the threatening spirit of the Antichrist. Likewise, The Church has continuously warned us against the threatening anti-Mary spirit of feminism. One cannot reject Our Lady without also rejecting Our Lord. Mary completely anathematizes feminism. There is no greater creature (anything that is not God is a creature) than the Blessed Virgin Mary. No other creature has a closer relationship to the Lord than His mother. No one. Not even close.
St. Louis de Montfort, in True Devotion to Mary, said this about her:
Such is the will of almighty God, who exalts the humble, that the powers of Heaven, earth and Hell, willingly or unwillingly, must obey the commands of the humble Virgin Mary. For God had made her Queen of Heaven and earth, leader of his armies, keeper of his treasures, dispenser of his graces, worker of his wonders, restorer of the human race, mediatrix on behalf of men, destroyer of his enemies and faithful associate in his great works and triumphs.
That's why her intercession is the greatest of all intercessions! The angel Gabriel called her "full of grace" — because, as she herself declared, her soul "magnifies the Lord." But how did she do it? She did it through her incredible humility. She stayed at home, prayed intensely, cooked, cleaned, made the home beautiful, managed the resources within the home for her family's needs, and employed creativity with ingenuity to the domestic arts to delight her family and provide rest and support for their daily tasks.
She was domestic. She spent her days caring for St. Joseph and her divine Son, the Savior of the world.
It's true that a wife's contributions are likely to be more hidden than her husband's. But her role remains crucial and irreplaceable for the flourishing of the family and its members. Catherine Doherty, in Donkey Bells: Advent and Christmas, beautifully reflects on the holiness of food preparation:
The preparation of food, as well as its acquisition, has always been an expression of love. This act became exceedingly holy with the coming of Christ. His mother sanctified it in a very special manner by transforming the fruits of the earth for the nourishment of His Human Body, which He assumed for our sake at Christmastime. The act of preparing food became even more holy when Christ, the Lord, used bread and wine to feed us, by transforming them into His Body and Blood. The holiness of the kitchen is beyond the ability of human words to express. To lovingly and joyfully transform the raw products of God's earth into food to feed one's brothers and sisters: This is a service and a privilege almost beyond compare! Those who work in the kitchen are especially blessed, for they 'feed the hungry' in the most literal of terms. They are blessed, because Our Lord said, "Whatsoever you do to the least of these, you do to Me." Those who eat of this food are also blessed, because they are like the disciples who sat at table with Jesus, in the village inn at Emmaus, "And they knew Him in the breaking of bread."
Our Lady didn't spend her time fighting for "equality" or usurping St. Joseph's authority. Instead, she served in the second-greatest humility that will ever be seen by the world — second only to the humility of Jesus Christ.
In the Gospels, we see that it is Joseph that God speaks to through his dreams, telling him what the family ought to do. He didn't communicate these messages to Our Lady, but to St. Joseph. Mary understands Joseph's role as head of the Holy Family and affirms him in his masculinity through her complete and boundless receptivity.
Our Lady most faithfully lived these two passages from St. Matthew's Gospel: "He who exalts himself will be humbled and he who humbles himself will be exalted" (23:12), and "whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave" (20:27).
Feminism, however, seeks power, not humility. Its motto would fittingly be Satan's words to Our Lord: "non serviam," (I will not serve).
We plainly see there was no contest of power between St. Joseph and Our Lady. And while many feminists cringe at the words "submissive" and "obedience," Mary joyfully welcomes them, humbly responding to St. Gabriel with her words that would forever change Heaven and earth, "Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord. Be it done unto me according to thy word" (Luke 1:38).
So what can be done about this? Simply put, we must both pray and act. It is not the whole picture to only pray the Rosary every day, go to Mass every Sunday, and make it to weekday Mass when feasible. Those are great things. Never stop praying the Rosary and going to Mass, but we need to both pray and take action.
For all the parents out there, are you paying close attention to the friends your children spend time with? Do you gossip about your spouse? Are either of you keeping secrets or hiding things from each other? Have you considered homeschooling your children?
For the fathers, are you spending quality time with your children every day? Are you teaching your children about the demands of the Gospel and love of Jesus Christ? Are you praying and fasting for your wife and children? Are you continuing to take your beloved wife out on dates for quality time? Do you treat her honorably? Have you and your wife put Covenant Eyes on all devices in your home? If you are struggling with mortal sin, that's your first priority in advancing in the spiritual life. (This goes for both men and women.)
Are you and your wife contracepting? I would invite you both to end that as soon as possible, repent, rush to confession, and receive the unfathomable mercy of God. Your wife owes you submission and obedience, yes, but it's pretty difficult for her to do that if you aren't leading.
If you are a working mother, have you asked yourself if you legitimately need to work outside the home? You may actually need to, but if not, it's never too late to stop. Are you being submissive to your husband? Are you supporting him and paying particularly close attention to your domestic duties? Do you ever belittle your husband in any way?
The answers to these questions are both key and revelatory, but if your marriage and homelife isn't what it should be right now, do what you can to amend them. Talk to a good priest and to couples who are demonstrating good marriages. Ask them for their prayer and support.
In this war for our souls, we will either bend the knee to feminism or to Christ through our Catholicism. The Church has taught from the very beginning that there's a hierarchy established by God between husband and wife. A faithful Catholic cannot also be a feminist. With the devilish ideology of feminism, Satan has tricked many souls into following his plan of destruction. Unfortunately, he has had some key victories as of late in the marriage and family department. As Rules for Retrogrades puts it:
Abortion, which "frees" women from maternal duties, is legal and rampant, producing 57 million human casualties in the United States alone since 1973. Contraception, another insulator against the chief gift of marriage, children, is virtually ubiquitous, with 98% of sexually active women having used a contraceptive method at some point.
But honestly, none of this should come as a surprise. There is a connection between feminism, contraception and abortion — but that's a topic for a different time.
The Devil has fixed his gaze on the family, but it's ultimately not about the family. It's about you. He wants to destroy the family because it's a quick way to get to you. We do not get to choose the time in which we live, but we do choose what to do with the life we have been given.
Brothers and sisters, you have been given life for a purpose, on purpose. We must obey Our Lady's requests to pray the Rosary every day, to consecrate ourselves to Her if we have not already, and to enlist in the legendary battle of good and evil that beckons our involvement.
Sister Lucia, whom I mentioned in Part I, said the following a number of years ago: "There is no problem, I tell you, no matter how difficult it is, that we cannot resolve by the prayer of the Holy Rosary."
Run to Our Lady, the destroyer of all heresies. Flee to her. In the end, the Immaculate Heart of Mary will triumph and the Church will prevail. Only God the Father knows when the fight will end, but until it does, never give up, never give in. I leave you with Abp. Carlo Maria Viganò's mobilizing call to battle that would rival the likes of William Wallace:
Now it is our turn — without equivocation, without letting ourselves be driven out of this Church whose legitimate children we are and in which we have the sacred right to feel at home; without the hateful horde of Christ's enemies making us feel marginalized, schismatic and excommunicated. Now it is our turn! The triumph of the Immaculate Heart of Mary — Co-Redemptrix and Mediatrix of all graces — passes through her "little ones," who are certainly frail and sinners but are absolutely opposed to the members enlisted in the Enemy's army; "little ones" consecrated without any limit whatsoever to the Immaculate, in order to be her heel, the most humiliated and despised part, the most hated by Hell, but which together with her will crush the head of the infernal Monster. The Church is shrouded in the darkness of modernism, but the victory belongs to Our Lord and His Bride. We desire to continue to profess the perennial faith of the Church in the face of the roaring evil that besieges her. We desire to keep vigil with her and with Jesus, in this new Gethsemane of the end times; to pray and do penance in reparation for the many offenses caused to them.